Today, I was on a walk getting my fresh air and I was just enjoying myself. I make it to a crosswalk, and I see a group of people all gathered together so I look (I am noisy). As I turn my head away, I notice one of them make a disgusted look face and say ew. I am the only other person on this crosswalk. I know they were judging me. Granted, I did not look like appealing. I was wearing active wear as I was coming back from a 3-mile walk, so I was not dressed to impress. I rolled out of bed and went on a walk, which it was the first time I had done a walk in a long time because I have been so busy.
Point is, I got judged solely based on my appearance. Typically, I wouldn’t put attention to this because this story will not matter to me in 5 minutes, but it highlights something wrong in our society for me. People get judged all of the time for stuff that is out of their control. They get judged for their appearance, they get judged for the way they talk, and it is not okay.
It is so not okay to make fun of anyone. It is not okay to give someone a disgusted look because you don’t like what they are wearing. Keep it to yourself, it is not that hard.
You never know what someone is going through. You never know if someone is going through a stressful time in their life, if someone is going through a breakup (I’m not), if someone is having a hard day, or anything. You just don’t know. Thankfully, I am not going through a major crisis right now. However, if that happened to me a year ago today when I was in a dark place, I would’ve cried myself to sleep over it. Am I being dramatic? A little bit, but you never know how something so minor like a mean glare could trigger someone to become so sad.
There is so much negativity going on in this world. In life there will be people who just tear you down. I know so because I have experienced it. I am okay with it now because it has made me so much stronger, but it took a long time for me to get to this point. I am still working on my confidence because some days I am insecure.
Instead of tearing people down, why can’t we build each other up? Why can’t we be kind to each other and complement each other? It is free to be kind. Legitimately, I love when complement me (it’s my favorite thing, it’s why I love my birthday because I get compliments). I will take a thoughtful letter over a fancy car (both would be nice). There are other people who feel this way as well.
We need to accept people for who they are. We need to realize that most of the time the status quo is dumb, and that our differences make us special. I am the only person who could be myself and you (the reader) are the only person who could be yourself. We need to embrace to who we are. However, in order for people to feel like they can be themselves is by people being kind. Instead of judging people, let’s complement people.
This is my challenge for everyone who read this. Every day, I want you to complement someone new for a week (or longer if you want). It could literally as small as your hair looks nice today. See how that makes people feel. I guarantee it will make their day, and you will feel good as well. Sometimes it’s the smallest things that can make someone’s day.
Let’s not judge people and let’s be kind to people.
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