Recently I have been spending a lot of my time thinking about the advice that has been given to me. Makes sense as I am preparing to graduate in a few short weeks, and I am getting ready to go off into the world after undergrad. There is a side of me that is unsettled by this because I simply don’t know what to expect in this upcoming chapter of my life. Then there is a side of me that knows that I will be okay and that everything works out the way it is supposed to. Candidly speaking, I don’t know how this next chapter is going to go for me. Nobody really does. However, I do feel a sense of preparedness in this next chapter.
Throughout my time in college, I have been given a ton of advice. Makes sense as I have gone through pitfalls and have made a plethora of mistakes. I’ve taken the time to learn from them and to help one learn through these things, people grant advice. Around this time 2 years ago, I was going through a pitfall in my life. I happen to be in my professor’s office hours for help on a homework question, and then the topic of life and opportunities came up. Then my professor gave me the best advice I had ever gotten. This piece of advice truly changed the course of my life. This professor told me to explore life and to be open to any opportunity that comes your way, especially right after college.
We are young once. As much as I would love to in certain moments, we cannot go back in time. Time is only moving forward. Everyone is getting older day by day. I know, it can be a hard pill to swallow at times. Right after college is a time where we can venture out of our comfort zones and see what the world truly has to offer. Personally, I am not married, I don’t have a family or a relationship to worry about. I can go wherever and pursue my career and my dreams wherever they may take me. Prior to being in college, I didn’t have this level of freedom and independence because I was a kid. I was 17, and I was scared of my own shadow. At certain moments before actually starting as a student at UD, the thought of being away from home was horrifying to me. However, I still left my parents’ nest and came to UD. Hands down one of the best decisions of my life. Now, I have four years of college underneath my belt. I have had a lot of life-changing moments that have matured me in many different ways. Right after college is the first time where I get to test and explore this new independence and freedom.
One of the ways that college has matured me is that I am now open to where life takes me. I don’t have a direct step-by-step plan for life. 4 years ago, I had a step by plan for how I was going to live my life in college. Yeah, absolutely nothing went to plan except for the fact that I am still at UD. While I do have something lined up for the next 3 years, that’s because it’s grad school and it’s a commitment. I don’t have a plan for my life beyond the professional aspect, and I don’t want one. I am going to be open to whatever life has in store for me during these next 3 years in life outside of my career. After those 3 years, as of right now I am open to wherever life continues to take me in every aspect. Career wise, if that is in the same spot as I am moving to next, lovely. If it’s not, then that’s great too. I am open to life.
My professor told me this because they knew that I had a plan for life after college as a sophomore. I had my whole life planned out then, but there was this side of me that was fully content with it. There was and is this side of me that wanted to explore beyond what I know. After hearing my professor's advice, this was my sign to forego the plan I had crafted and to embrace life for the chaotic uncertainty it can have at times. The moment after I got my professor’s advice, I applied it to every aspect of my life. If an opportunity came across my path and I thought it was enticing, I pursued it. That’s the reason why I ended up studying abroad in Australia and it’s the reason why I applied to the grad program that I am now set to go to.
If I never took my professor’s advice 2 years ago, my life would be so different today. I don’t want to wonder what it might look like because I love the way my life looks today and I love the direction it’s going in.
I will continue being open to every opportunity, I will continue following the opportunities that intrigue me. I recommend that you do too, especially if you’re stuck at a crossroads in your life.
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